Thanks for commenting.

There's a lot to unpack in your comment, and I can't assume a lot about you from just two paragraphs. But, the premise of there being a disconnect between the qualities people "supposedly" look for, and they time they give you to demonstrate it, is fundamentally flawed.

You cannot presume what women, or anyone, seek in a partner. And if you are approaching it as if you have to prove something, you're already fighting the wrong fight.

No one wants to be a savior who rescues someone else from being single. Your belief in needing to prove something broadcasts loud and clear that you are hoping to have other people fill your voids.

Solve that, by which I mean solve yourself, and then it is a numbers game.